Cancellations and chance encounters


When plans change and you find yourself with a clear diary, what do you do? Do you use it to catch up with work, get ahead of yourself or just keep slogging away at the pile? Do you get annoyed, thinking of the missed opportunity – what you could have booked into that time, had you known in advance? Or do you take the day off? I had a workshop cancellation this week, a rather welcome reprieve as I was launching into a 4-day-workshop-week after handing in my book. I had a pile of stuff to do, deadlines I had […] Continue reading »

More than we expect


Sometimes plans change, sometimes things don’t go to plan. And sometimes, when we are wiling to abandon our plans, we can find ourselves with far more than we expected. In the last days of writing my book I had this nagging feeling. Several people had suggested that I make a fairly substantial change to the structure, but I couldn’t see how it would work. I could see their point, but when you’ve spent so long stitching something together, it’s hard to see how you can tear it out, put it somewhere else and stitch it all back together seamlessly. There […] Continue reading »

Reclaiming Good


A friend said to me the other day “I’m trying to stop aiming for progress.” It stumped me at first. I’ve always though of progress as a good thing - the antidote to perfection even. But what she meant was that she kept finding herself measuring success as reaching for something more than what she had. Success was growing her business, taking on more clients, increasing her turnover and her profit, improving her game, increasing the opportunities she created for herself and her son. Which are all great things. But she was so focused on progress, on reaching something greater, […] Continue reading »

Unlikely leadership


I was at a leadership conference this weekend and had the privilege of being asked to be on the Q&A panel. It wasn’t until I got there that I caught myself wondering – what am I doing here? Who am I to be on this panel? The other panelists were leading churches and charities. They have teams of people who are answerable to them. Who do I lead? What qualifies me to to answer these questions? Thankfully, one of the speakers shared this quote, which reminded me: “If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and […] Continue reading »

Eyes wide open

i am watching you!

When you look at your week ahead, what do you see? A heavy schedule – or a week full of opportunities? A diary full of meetings – or decisions you can influence, relationships you can build and conversations you can give your voice to? Pressure to perform, or the opportunity to do your best work? Do you see the challenge or the opportunity to stretch? Do you see gaps and limitations, or do you see what you already have, and how far you’ve already come? Do you see the person you’re not or the person you already are? Do you […] Continue reading »

Daily treasures


There’s a lovely old man who comes into my writing cave – the local cafe where I’m fast becoming part of the furniture. He’s a regular too – he usually visits as part of his daily routine to get out the house, pick up a couple of things from M&S, then stop by the cafe to read his paper over a cup of coffee and usually a few extra treats from the staff. He used to volunteer at another cafe (I seem to live my life in cafes!) where I used to take my kids, and has known them since […] Continue reading »

What happens when you say “I can’t”


When you say “I can’t” what are you really saying? That you don’t know how? You don’t have the resources to? That you’re not sure you want to? That you’re already committed to something else? Sometimes it’s easier to say “I can’t”. “I can’t make it” rolls off the tongue easier than “actually I’d rather not” or “I’d prefer to do something else” or “I’ve already committed to something that I don’t want to cancel” “I can’t possibly do that” is easier to swallow than “that scares me to death” or “I’m not sure that would work” or even “I […] Continue reading »